Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Nothings perfect but I'll love you forever...

Our love story (corny huh!)

Nate and I actually met when I was 14 but we didn't start dating until right after my 17th birthday.  Upon first meeting Nate, my friend asked me what I thought about him and I told her he had big ears, big lips and talked too much...Now nearly 12 years later, my son as the most adorable big ears!!  It's funny, you never know the impact someone will have on your life when first meeting.  I would have NEVER imagined that I met my best friend, future husband and father to my child at 14 years old sitting around a bon fire.  Never say never!!

Some say high school love doesn't exist and that it never lasts...well almost 9 years years later, we're living proof that it's possible and that age is not a factor whether love is real or not.  No one ever said it was going to be easy, marriage takes work from both parts on a daily basis. 

Nate and I started dating on Valentine's Day in 2004.  I was a high school Junior and Nate worked full time 3rd shift, therefore we didn't get to spend too much time together.  I graduated high school in 2005 and moved away to attend college while Nate moved out of his parent's home to be closer to his job.  For 4 months Nate and I lived 2 1/2 hours from each other...probably the 4 longest months of my life up to that point.  Needless to say I moved home after one semester away at college. 

Nate proposed on New Year's Eve 2005 in Indy down on the canal while telling me just how much he loved me!  We both agreed that we wanted a short engagement and married on July 22, 2006 with those that mean that most surrounding us.  In my opinion, it's the most beautiful wedding I've ever seen!! :)

Our love story has continued and though we have been through we've found ourselves in some very difficult situations, I wouldn't want anyone other than my best friend standing beside me!  Life can get very busy and we can find ourselves not making as much time for each other as we had before (which is something I really want to work on in the near future). 

Although life isn't perfect and our marriage is by no means perfect.  We have our "disagreements" just as any other couple does. Even when I get so frustrated with something that has been said or done by my best friend, I can honestly say that I couldn't imagine my life with anyone else!  I love this man more than anything and I plan to spend the rest of my life showing him just that!

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Everything has a purpose

Before going any further, I want to explain the purpose for my decision to start blogging:

1. Share experiences
     My family and I have gone through some fairly unique situations/experiences. I hope to use our experiences/situations as a tool to help others.  Many times in the last several years I've found myself on Google trying to find answers/information certain situations we've been faced with.  Googling one topic will lead you to page upon page of information but I quickly realized finding personal experiences was a challenge in itself.  I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, and I strongly believe that the "reason" to many of our experiences is nothing more than to help others who find themselves in similar situations. 

2. Journaling
     It seems as though there is never enough time in a day.  I love it when someone tells me that they journal, I wish I knew how they found the time in day to get out an actual piece of paper and a pen and just write down their feelings.  Though the ever changing era of mobile technology can be a pain (constant phone calls, emails, texts, notifications), it will be beneficial for me as I can blog through my phone whenever I get a couple of minutes free!
     I want to be able to convey my feelings and emotions that I can look back on one day.  Even though my son is only 2 years old, I love looking at his "baby" pictures and remembering how things were back then...what better than to be able to look back on things I've written!!
3. Stepping out of my comfort zone
     I'm more than willing to help anyone in need...as long as it's in my comfort zone!  I'm very comfortable where I am and I have a hard time changing that.  I plan to use this blog to work myself gradually out of my comfort zone by challenging myself to be a more open person when needed.

4. A way of letting it all out
     I'm a female living in a house with 2 males, 3 if you count our dog Tyger!  Therefore, I learned early on that guys aren't as concerned with hearing about our "feelings" as we hoped they would be.  In saying that, I don't mean that my husband doesn't listen to me, I just mean he doesn't listen as intently as a girlfriend would! I've learned to keep a lot of things to myself...which can be a recipe for disaster!  I hope to use this blog to express some of my feelings/options/experiences that I would typically keep to myself. 

This blog is in no way meant to show that I'm any better than anyone else or that my family is any better than anyone elses.  Please don't criticize things that I express...in the end I'm expressing them from mine and my immediate families perspective. 

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Giving it a try!

I've never really seen the need for a blog before...and to be completely honest, I thought that they were kind of silly!  So why would I even consider this...I'm in a journey of better my (our) life.  This journey includes lifestyle changes, getting "real" with God and our religion, making decisions to better our family, financial changes and trying to help others through the experiences our family has had.  I want to use this blog as a tool for myself and for others.  I want to be able to write down my feelings and emotions about certain subjects/situations as well as being able to read through "life's happening" in other families.  If I could help one other family through this blog, the entire thing would be worth it!  In saying all of that, here we go!!

Disclaimer: Sometimes when people say things, I think they say them because they know that's what they're supposed to say.  You will not find that here.  I'm a completely honest person and I will use to blog to be completely 100% honest.  If I say something, I honestly feel that way.  Is my life perfect? No. Is any one's life perfect? No. I'm just saying that what I say is what I mean, no sugar coating!  I will do my best to post my feelings and beliefs on subjects, though I will say up front: I strongly believe that somethings are private and those things won't be discussed.  There is a time and place for everything, somethings just shouldn't be talked about openly for the entire world to see!

A little about me and those that mean the most to me!

  I'm lucky to be married to my best friend Nate of almost 9 years (married 6 years).  Our relationship isn't perfect (wouldn't that be boring) but in the end, I can say that I wouldn't want to ride this roller coaster with anyone else!  Life can give us so many unpredictable (which I'll go into later), it's so nice to have someone that you know will always be there no matter what.  He's been with me through my best and my worst and has loved me through it all. - More about our relationship later-

 Three years into our marriage, we were blessed with the most precious miracle we could ever ask for, our son Landon.  Landon has brought our family more joy and happiness than I could have ever imagined.  There isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God for this wonderful gift who is now an energetic almost 3 year old! Though all children are miracles, our son truly is a miracle.  There was a time in which we weren't sure if we'd ever be parents...

And I can't forget about our little doggie Tyger...shh...he doesn't realize he's a dog and not a human!!

Well this seems like enough for now.  I'm more than excited to begin sharing our "story" however I won't take time away from my family to do so! More to come later!!